So many arguments grow because of differing definitions of words or terms. If you’re arguing, pause to ask and understand how the other person describes specific words or terms you’ve used. Then describe how you see that word. Then, pick things up from the new understanding, not the word. You might find there’s far less …
Your mind is cloudy. And heavy. And noisy. You know why? Because it got that way. Because it likes to add stuff. And then a bit more. And a bit more… It just can’t leave the most simple of its observations alone. It just has to tamper with them. It quickly takes what it notices …
One (of many) useful ways of making a decision is to ask yourself and write the answers to: 1. What’s important about this outcome? 2. What else? (Ask 3-5 times) 3. Of those listed, what’s THE most important? The least negotiable? 4. If you get that thing, what will it ultimately do for you? 5. …
Want to see how you might look through the eyes of someone else? Here are two ways to get closer to this: 1. What values of theirs do you admire? They probably notice and admire the same in you. 2. What do you not like so much about them? Take the opposite of that. Go …
Next, you should do the thing that’s stopping you from doing the next thing. What’s the next thing you really should be doing? The thing that’ll make the most impact on your life, and preferably make tomorrow easier or better? What’s stopping you from getting that done? Attend to that right now.
So what are YOU going to do about it?
I’m often asked by clients which of their current employees should be selling or engaging customers. There are numerous traits that suggest someone could ‘sell’, or be a strong leader (because the two roles are similar). But I’ve boiled down my top three: 1. They have strong ‘belief in cause’ 2. They’re credible in front …
Someone you care about believes something that you know is nonsense, and you can see it’s harming them, or other people, and maybe even harming you. Because you care, you wish there was a way to help them out of it. Consider this: You Cannot Reason People Out of Something They Were Not Reasoned Into …
When my son was little he came in crying because his sister called him an idiot. I said “well, are you?” He said “no!” I said “well, you haven’t got anything to worry about then.” He stopped crying. Chimp brain out the way, I added “and if you’re not, then that also makes her wrong. …
Pay-off: learn the vital missing piece to solving your frustrations Investment: 4 mins Sign up to monthly posts here There are many reasons why you might be frustrated when faced with a challenge or situation. But this is the one I most commonly see that frustrated people tend to overlook. I’d go as far as …
