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Help someone get started

Most people don’t get started because they don’t know where to start. You can watch them not start for years. That’s how long they’ll wait, sometimes. But you really only need two ingredients to help get someone started: Want a kid to enjoy throwing a paper aeroplane? (Yeah, this is a metaphor..) 1. Hand them …

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Great minds

…don’t think alike. They challenge each other to think again. Intellectual chemistry occurs not when you both agree but when you enjoy disagreeing and then work together to get it right rather than be right. “Even if I don’t like it, what parts of what they’re saying could be right? And in which situations?” is …

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Become a strong independent thinker

Never before have our minds been so ambushed from all directions, constantly. With all the emotionally-charged noise out there, social media, fake news, echo chambers, amplified fear, us Vs them mentality, and volume turned up on biases, it can be hard to stop the external environment from owning your thinking. And there’s no doubt it’s …

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The easiest way to ride a horse

The easiest way to ride a horse is in the direction it’s already going. Then, with all resistance dropped for a while, it begins to let you turn it. And the same applies to conversations with people.

How others see you

Want to see how you might look through the eyes of someone else? Here are two ways to get closer to this: 1. What values of theirs do you admire? They probably notice and admire the same in you. 2. What do you not like so much about them? Take the opposite of that. Go …

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2 things that maximise value

There are two types of value: I rhymed them intentionally to help recall, because they’re worth recalling. If you just provide the value people request, you’re leaving an awful lot of value on the table. Because all of us can only see so far. You provide more value and become more valuable when you also …

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Undoing nonsense

Someone you care about believes something that you know is nonsense, and you can see it’s harming them, or other people, and maybe even harming you. Because you care, you wish there was a way to help them out of it. Consider this: You Cannot Reason People Out of Something They Were Not Reasoned Into …

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